“If you focus on what you’ve left behind you will never be able to see what lies ahead” —Ratatouille
During the last two years, my life revolved around my family and my Dad. It's hard not to feel guilt as I slowly merge into my "new life." I'm scared that my move means that I'm dismissing my responsibilities to take care of my family or I'm leaving the memories of my Dad behind. What is an important reminder is that life re-imagined is not about forgetting, but letting go.
Sometimes you’re never ready, because the doubts are overwhelming– but our inner selves know when we need to move on— to continue moving forward instead of worrying about what we might lose. It is easy to lose ourselves in the past as we grow older and begin to collect a well of memories, but it is important to let go of the past so you are empowered to make new decisions for your future.
|New York 2012, Los Angeles 2014, San Francisco 2016|
1. Letting go phase
“Before you can live, a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been...” — Shannon Alder
It’s important to be able to accept and grieve the losses that come from the “old life” — to be okay with change and exploring the expectations of your new life. It’s a time to leave behind old perspectives and mistaken beliefs. It's accepting that "things will never be the same," but also having faith that it'll be okay. Letting go isn't always easy because you're relinquishing the feeling of "safety" that you've built over time. Letting go is allowing yourself to be vulnerable once again.
2. In-between phase
“The willingness to consider possibility requires a tolerance of uncertainty” — R.N. Remen
This is a phase in which we detach from our old life but haven’t established a new one. It’s a scary, uncomfortable phase where things feel out of your control and there's no clear path. This is a true transitional period when there is extreme uncertainty— where the normal routines, habits and people that ground you are gone and you're walking into the dark with open arms. It's a period of growth, as you find ways to adapt and be self-sufficient. The most important thing is patience.
3. Acceptance phase
“Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be”
In this phase, we fully accept the new life and embrace change. We feel centered, grounded and sure about the possibilities of the new phase. We are emboldened by growth, acceptance and we are rewarded with feeling comfortable and confident.
Assess the change
Be kind to yourself
Create a support network
Life re-imagined is first and foremost our ability to choose our own way. It is disregarding convention and expectations to create our path the way we imagine it. It's a mindset and way of thinking that allow us to make bold choices and be curious about what lies ahead. Remember, "the only thing that is constant is change." In hopes that we embrace all new beginnings.
this is so right for me, and you can,t skip a phase or sometimes you have to go backwards way, i am so thankful to God for showing me
Forgive, let go and move on
those words brought me a new freedom to me spiritually, mentally and physically
thank you so much for sharing
Thank you so much, Angie! This is so perfectly written and timely. I am at month 5 of a big transition and it’s been difficult to remain in Phase 2 and be patient with myself as I discover what’s next. Your article is very helpful.
This is so beautifully written. It is just what I needed to read this week. I hope to go back to this post time and time again.
Thank you, Angie! This is a very clear, wise and helpful post for times of transitions. Lots of support here.
THIS! I needed this! I’m at an odd season in my life and every little push and dose of encouragement I can get I soak up. I will be sharing this until I’m blue in the face. Thank you for sharing and best wishes on your new adventure!