“Keep a notebook. Travel with it, eat with it, sleep with it. Slap into it every stray thought that flutters up in your brain. Cheap paper is less perishable than gray matter, and lead pencil markings endure longer than memory.” — Jack London
Quite often, I have been asked why I am always so upbeat as if being happy is wrong or a strange thing to be. Friends are well aware of the challenges that I deal with on a daily basis. My personal life is a bit of strain these days, and this isn’t the first time it has been tough. But, my default mode is positive. As to how I stay this way, the answer is always the same. I credit my notebook. When I give this response, most often I get a sideways glance. People think I’m either quirky or just obsessed with stationery. The truth of the matter is that personal writing is the means by which I process the world around me, try to make sense of my relationships, collect my memories, and make observations about the world that allow me to be amazed by just how glorious the simplest things are. Personal writing taps into my very soul. My notebook is a tool.
How Does My Notebook Get Me Through the Challenging Times?
I have a good friend, who laughs at me when I say, “I’ll have to process that.” I often step back when it comes time to make assumptions, answer questions, draw conclusions, and pass judgments. Time is my friend; and during that time, I write. For me, writing is organized thinking. It gives me a chance to really come to know what I feel about myself, others, and the world around me.
Like Jack London recommends in his quote, I carry my notebook at all times. We are together during the best of times and the worst of times. I write something nearly every day, often about mundane topics and sometimes about more serious ones. I jot down notes, write what I’m grateful for, plan out my goals, make observations, gripe about things, hash out problems. I always call my notebook “an extension of my brain.” I think it is also an extension of my heart and maybe of my soul. At the end of the day, through all of the writing, I think my notebook helps me stay in my default mode, which is “positive.”
I don’t just write chronological entries that describe what my day was like. Nor do I just write when I’m having a problem. I write all of the time. I always find something to write about and a way to enter into writing. I call those ways of putting my ideas onto paper, “writing techniques” and “writing modes.”
Here are some of my favorite writing modes:
- Mind Mosaics
- Unsent Letters
- Descriptive Writing
Mind Mosaics are the name of a writing technique that evolved in my notebooks over time. I use it often and share it often on my Instagram account. I like it for many reasons, but mostly because it gives me a quick way to relieve stress. I quickly write about four things that are cluttering my mind, in a short amount of time. Using a two-page spread, I write in a clockwise motion, focusing on one topic per quadrant of the writing space, at a time. There is something comforting about circles and writing that way is definitely a great feeling. It is also aesthetically appealing to me.
I write a lot of unsent letters. Sometimes I write letters to my sons. I think that one day they will find my notebooks after I am gone. There are many notes for them. Whenever I am struggling to find ways of discussing something with someone or dealing with an issue that involves another person, especially when there are negative feelings, I write a letter that I am never going to send. This gives me the opportunity to explore my feelings and know what it feels like to express them. Often I realize that the things I’ve written are not things I would actually say to another person, but getting them out of my head and heart and onto the paper, helps me in so many ways. So, there are many types of unsent letters. Some are angry, but some are sweet treasures.
I love lists so much. When I was around 9 or 10, I had an entire notebook filled with lists about different topics. People from all over used to help me add to my lists. Lists are easy, usually. But lists can also be much more insightful than their simplicity might imply. A list entitled “Ten Things I Like About _______,” when you’re not feeling especially positive about someone, can push you past your anger. A list of places I want to visit keeps me dreaming and full of adventure. And my daily action lists help me to say focused and accountable to myself.
I love to just sit in a place and write about what I hear and see and smell. Far too often, we are checking our phones, talking, reading something, rather than just being in the moment. It’s hard to focus on our surroundings these days and be present, but it is so important to our well being. Being observant of my surroundings and taking it all in is always a rich experience that provides me with an appreciation for my day. If I’m in a cafe, I get to smell the roasting coffee beans, hear the chatter of the other customers, maybe even eavesdrop on part of an interesting conversation that leaves me to guess (and write about) the rest.
Oh, my friend, there’s so, so much more, I could tell you. I could go on for days and hours about writing in a notebook and how it helps me cope with life and appreciate the simple miracles that happen every day. My notebook is my number one tool for knowing me, trying to know the world, coming to some understandings my interactions with others and for making intellectual and emotional pathways that will lead me back to “positive.” I hope this encourages and motivates you to write, always with the goal of pulling yourself forward and toward the light.
Keep a notebook with you always and write everything in it. Every little thing. And live a life worth writing about.